The Ten Stages is unique in that our recovery manifests from perfect health and refuses to acknowledge the ancient ideas of historic pathology and fear of so called modern therapies.

In the deepest core feelings of our child within, we have been injected with grief, toxic shame and loneliness. We were traumatised by our parents abandoning us. We feel we are bad, as if we’re contaminated, and that shame leads to loneliness. Since our child within feels flawed and defective, We have to cover up our true child within with our adapted, false self. We then come to identify ourself by our false self. Our true self the child within remains alone and isolated.Forever seeking answers for its abandonment.


Staying with this last layer of painful feelings is the hardest part of the grief process. It’s hard to stay at that level of shame and loneliness; but as we embrace these feelings, we come out the other side. We encounter the child within that’s been in hiding. You see, because we hid it from others, we hid it from ourselves. In embracing our shame and loneliness, we begin to touch our perfect child within which we have kept hidden from all. The Ten Stages is unique in that our recovery manifests from perfect health and refuses to acknowledge the ancient ideas of historic pathology and fear of so called modern therapies.