Bonding over our perfect child within, not our trauma.

Bonding over our perfect child within, not our trauma. 

Imagine setting the intention to create primary relationships in our lives that support and encourage us to live in our recovery – CONSCIOUSLY. this has always been an unconscious desire of ours, but those words hold a lot of recovery power.



Many of us bond over our pain and get angry or jealous when the other person starts to step into our power. Have you done that?



When we bond over our trauma only, eventually it feels like we are walking on eggshells in our recovery relationships. If we feel this way, then we can safely say we have not bonded over our recovery and thus have not attracted a recovery that supports our child within and encourages us to live in our recovery. The flip side of this thought is that we must also celebrate, support and encourage our stagers to live in his or her recovery. And THAT can be a scary thing. If they live in their recovery, we have less certainty around what would possibly happen in ours.



If we support someone else’s recovery they might get more attention than us, which can feel threatening. It takes a bold and confident stager to bond over each other’s power and encourage the fullness of the other person in their recovery.



So, my question for you today is this: are the relationships in your recovery supporting your child within or discouraging your child within? Have you bonded over your traumatic wounds only, or have you bonded over each other being in the company of your child within? Is your recovery relationship set up so both of you can thrive? Or do the egos relationships in your life hold you back?