We cannot forget that our child withins worst fear is abandonment.

We cannot forget that our child withins worst fear is abandonment. Since the child is totally dependent on its caregivers for its survival, abandonment equals death. This keeps us, the norm, skittish about leaving the alleged safety of the family. We sense that self-investigation would pry us out of the clan’s conformity, away from parental approval and into exile, into worlds unknown, a wilderness. This we equate with death. Therefore, we refuse to look within and avoid the shift of perception inherent in self-investigation—at the cost of losing our connection with our abandoned child within. The sad irony is that the traumatised family and our compromised parents have long ago abandoned us. Thus, by remaining in the family they are already in exile, cut off from our child within and cut off from what would truly sustain us—reconnection to our child within.